Make Peace with What Is!

Make Peace With What Is!

One Day With the Right Person Can Change Everything!

One Day spent with someone you love can change everything

Sharing the Love

If no one has said "I Love You" today, let me be the one!

You Can Give In To the Pain In Your Life, or ...

You can give in to the pain in your life ... Or you can be an overcomer and be stronger than you were before.

What a great reflection!

We all experience pain in our lives. It can take so many forms, each of us has a very unique way of experiencing life.

The big question is ...

With the pain make you stronger?

Or, will it overwhelm you?

Listening is a Powerful Quality

The word LISTEN contains the same letters as the word SILENT

This short quote really struck gold!

How many times have you found yourself talking over someone when they are trying to tell you something.

Some people are really great at STOPPING ... Staying SILENT ...

And then the Magic Happens - once the really LISTEN, they can hear the message that is being shared.

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Today was one of those days where there was a lot of blame going on between business partners, but to be honest - neither of them was actually taking the time to Listen!

We ALL need to take a moment and STOP, because it happens in Business, in Family Relationships AND in your most important relationship with your Partner, Spouse or Lover.

We can all look for excuses ... or we can look to have the BEST Relationship!

It is each person's own decision how they are going to approach the problems at hand.

Moving Forward

I don't want you to save me. I want you to stand by me as I save myself.

There's no reason to look back when you have so much to look forward to.

Yes! I Can

Tell me I can't do it. I DARE you. Then watch me prove you wrong.

I Love Straight Talking People

I Love straight talking people, there's no trying to guess what they're thinking, no BS.

Count Your Blessings

This fire that we call Loving is too strong for human minds, but just right for human Souls.

Life is too short to argue and fight. count your blessings, value your friends, and move on with your head held high and a smile for everyone.

Know That You Are Special!

People Don't Always need advice. Sometimes all they need is a hand to hold, an ear to listen, and a heart to understand them.

There are many beautiful people in this world. Never forget that you are ONE of them

Live Life

One of the most courageous decisions you will ever make is to finally let go of what is hurting your heart and soul.

Your Best teacher is your Last Mistake

2 Beautiful Soul and Love Connections

Come and discover two beautiful Quotes on Soul and Love Connections

Actually, your soul and mine are the same. We appear and disappear with each other. - Rumi

I want to Love You ... Every Single Day!

I Wasn't Treating My Husband Fairly, And It Wasn't Fair

In a Relationship Have You Ever Found Yourself Overreacting to Simple Things ... And ... Is it Truly Worth It?

 It's never easy to admit you have a problem, or that you were wrong. A "MissFranJanSan" took to Redditt and wrote out her recent "revelation" in hopes that it might help other marriages. This is what she wrote...

My "Aha Moment" happened because of a package of hamburger meat. I asked my husband to stop by the store to pick up a few things for dinner, and when he got home, he plopped the bag on the counter. I started pulling things out of the bag, and realized he'd gotten the 70/30 hamburger meat - which means it's 70% lean and 30% fat.

I asked, "What's this?"

"Hamburger meat," he replied, slightly confused.

"You didn't get the right kind," I said.

"I didn't?" He replied with his brow furrowed. " Was there some other brand you wanted or something?"

"No. You're missing the point, " I said. "You got the 70/30. I always get at least the 80/20."

He laughed. "Oh. That's all? I thought I'd really messed up or something."

That's how it started. I launched into him. I berated him for not being smarter. Why would he not get the more healthy option? Did he even read the labels? Why can't I trust him? Do I need to spell out every little thing for him in minute detail so he gets it right? Also, and the thing I was probably most offended by, why wasn't he more observant? How could he not have noticed over the years what I always get? Does he not pay attention to anything I do?

As he sat there, bearing the brunt of my righteous indignation and muttering responses like, "I never noticed," "I really don't think it's that big of a deal," and "I'll get it right next time," I saw his face gradually take on an expression that I'd seen on him a lot in recent years. It was a combination of resignation and demoralization. He looked eerily like our son does when he gets chastised. That's when it hit me. "Why am I doing this? I'm not his mom."

I suddenly felt terrible. And embarrassed for myself. He was right. It really wasn't anything to get bent out of shape over. And there I was doing just that. Over a silly package of hamburger meat that he dutifully picked up from the grocery store just like I asked. If I had specific requirements, I should have been clearer. I didn't know how to gracefully extract myself from the conversation without coming across like I have some kind of split personality, so I just mumbled something like, "Yeah. I guess we'll make do with this. I'm going to start dinner."

He seemed relieved it was over and he left the kitchen.

And then I sat there and thought long and hard about what I'd just done. And what I'd been doing to him for years, probably. The "hamburger meat moment," as I've come to call it, certainly wasn't the first time I scolded him for not doing something the way I thought it should be done. He was always putting something away in the wrong place. Or leaving something out. Or neglecting to do something altogether. And I was always right there to point it out to him.

Why do I do that? How does it benefit me to constantly belittle my husband? The man that I've taken as my partner in life. The father of my children. The guy I want to have by my side as I grow old. Why do I do what women are so often accused of, and try to change the way he does every little thing? Do I feel like I'm accomplishing something? Clearly not if I feel I have to keep doing it. Why do I think it's reasonable to expect him to remember everything I want and do it just that way? The instances in which he does something differently, does it mean he's wrong? When did "my way" become "the only way?" When did it become okay to constantly correct him and lecture him and point out every little thing I didn't like as if he were making some kind of mistake?

And how does it benefit him? Does it make him think, "Wow! I'm sure glad she was there to set me straight?" I highly doubt it. He probably feels like I'm harping on him for no reason whatsoever. And it I'm pretty sure it makes him think his best approach in regards to me is to either stop doing things around the house, or avoid me altogether.

Two cases in point. 
#1. I recently found a shard of glass on the kitchen floor. I asked him what happened. He said he broke a glass the night before. When I asked why he didn't tell me, he said, "I just cleaned it up and threw it away because I didn't want you to have a conniption fit over it." 
#2. I was taking out the trash and found a pair of blue tube socks in the bin outside. I asked him what happened and why he'd thrown them away. He said, "They accidentally got in the wash with my jeans. Every time I put in laundry, you feel the need to remind me not to mix colors and whites. I didn't want you to see them and reinforce your obvious belief that I don't know how to wash clothes after 35 years."

So it got to the point where he felt it was a better idea — or just plain easier — to cover things up than admit he made a human error. What kind of environment have I created where he feels he's not allowed to make mistakes?

And let's look at these "offenses": A broken glass. A pair of blue tube socks. Both common mistakes that anyone could have made. But he was right. Regarding the glass, I not only pointed out his clumsiness for breaking it, but also due to the shard I found, his sad attempt at cleaning it up. As for the socks, even though he'd clearly stated it was an accident, I gave him a verbal lesson about making sure he pays more attention when he's sorting clothes. Whenever any issues like this arise, he'll sit there and take it for a little bit, but always responds in the end with something like, "I guess it just doesn't matter that much to me."

I know now that what he means is, "this thing that has you so upset is a small detail, or a matter of opinion, or a preference, and I don't see why you're making it such a big deal." But from my end I came to interpret it over time that he didn't care about my happiness or trying to do things the way I think they should be done. I came to view it like "this guy just doesn't get it." I am clearly the brains of this operation.

I started thinking about what I'd observed with my friends' relationships, and things my girlfriends would complain about regarding their husbands, and I realized that I wasn't alone. Somehow, too many women have fallen into the belief that Wife Always Knows Best. There's even a phrase to reinforce it: "Happy wife, happy life." That doesn't leave a lot of room for his opinions, does it?

It's an easy stereotype to buy into. Look at the media. Movies, TV, advertisements - they're all filled with images of hapless husbands and clever wives. He can't cook. He can't take care of the kids. If you send him out to get three things, he'll come back with two — and they'll both be wrong. We see it again and again.

(On a side note, I have a friend in advertising, and I asked him why so much of that stereotype exists. He basically said, "'Smart wife/dumb husband' is really the only joke that's allowed anymore. Imagine doing a commercial with a clueless or helpless wife who needs a man to come in and save the day. Customers would be up in arms because of the company's antiquated views on women. Plus women make the majority of household purchases in this country, and you want to make them feel smart for choosing your product. So what you always get is the dumb husband character foil.)

What this constant nagging and harping does is send a message to our husbands that says "we don't respect you. We don't think you're smart enough to do things right. We expect you to mess up. And when you do, you'll be called out on it swiftly and without reservation." Given this kind of negative reinforcement over time, he feels like nothing he can do is right (in your eyes). If he's confident with himself and who he is, he'll come to resent you. If he's at all unsure about himself, he'll start to believe you, and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Neither one is a desirable, beneficial outcome to you, him or the marriage.

Did my husband do the same to me? Just as I'm sure there are untold numbers of women who don't ever do this kind of thing to their husbands, I'm sure there are men who do it to their wives too. But I don't think of it as a typical male characteristic. As I sat and thought about it, I realized my husband didn't display the same behavior toward me. I even thought about some of the times I really did make mistakes. The time I backed into the gate and scratched the car? He never said a word about it. The time I was making dinner, got distracted by a call from my mom, and burned it to cinders? He just said, "we can just order a pizza." The time I tried to put the new patio furniture together and left his good tools out in the rain? "Accidents happen," was his only response.

I shuddered to think what I would have said had the shoe been on the other foot and he'd made those mistakes.

So is he just a better person than me? Why doesn't he bite my head off when I don't do things the way he likes? I'd be a fool to think it doesn't happen. And yet I don't remember him ever calling me out on it. It doesn't seem he's as intent as changing the way I do things. But why?

Maybe I should take what's he always said at face value. The fact that these little things "really don't matter that much to him" is not a sign that he's lazy, or that he's incapable of learning, or that he just doesn't give a damn about what I want. Maybe to him, the small details are not that important in his mind — and justifiably so. They're not the kinds of things to start fights over. They're not the kinds of things he needs to change about me. It certainly doesn't make him dumb or inept. He's just not as concerned with some of the minutia as I am. And it's why he doesn't freak out when he's on the other side of the fence.

The bottom line in all this is that I chose this man as my partner. He's not my servant. He's not my employee. He's not my child. I didn't think he was stupid when I married him - otherwise I wouldn't have. He doesn't need to be reprimanded by me because I don't like the way he does some things.

When I got to that point mentally, it then made me start thinking about all the good things about him. He's intelligent. He's a good person. He's devoted. He's awesome with the kids. And he does always help around the house. (Just not always to my liking!) Even more, not only does he refrain from giving me grief when I make mistakes or do things differently than him, he's always been very agreeable to my way of doing things. And for the most part, if he notices I prefer to do something a certain way, he tries to remember it in the future. Instead of focusing on those wonderful things, I just harped on the negative. And again, I know I'm not alone in this.

If we keep attempting to make our husbands feel small, or foolish, or inept because they occasionally mess up (and I use that term to also mean "do things differently than us"), then eventually they're going to stop trying to do things. Or worse yet, they'll actually come to believe those labels are true.

In my case it's my husband of 12+ years I'm talking about. The same man who thanklessly changed my car tire in the rain. The guy who taught our kids to ride bikes. The person who stayed with me at the hospital all night when my mom was sick. The man who has always worked hard to make a decent living and support his family.

He knows how to change the oil in the car. He can re-install my computer's operating system. He lifts things for me that are too heavy and opens stuck jar lids. He shovels the sidewalk. He can put up a ceiling fan. He fixes the toilet when it won't stop running. I can't (or don't) do any of those things. And yet I give him grief about a dish out of place. He's a good man who does a lot for me, and doesn't deserve to be harassed over little things that really don't matter in the grand scheme of things.

Since my revelation, I try to catch myself when I start to nag. I'm not always 100% consistent, but I know I've gotten a lot better. And I've seen that one little change make a big improvement in our relationship. Things seem more relaxed. We seem to be getting along better. It think we're both starting to see each other more as trusted partners, not adversarial opponents at odds with each other in our day-to-day existence. I've even come to accept that sometimes his way of doing things may be better!

Don't Take a Chance ... Text The Romance Back
 
No one is always right and no one is always wrong. 
 
And you're not always going to see eye-to-eye on every little thing. 

It doesn't make you smarter, or superior, or more right to point out every little thing he does that's not to your liking. 

Ladies, remember, it's just hamburger meat.

It takes two to make a partnership.

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Love must be forever like itself, changeless forever, and forever without alternative. And so it is.

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3 Ways to Be Irresistibly Attractive to Men

Women are afraid of being women…
 
That’s right; women are actually scared of being women.
 
How many times have you seen or heard of women who are uncomfortable…
just BEING THEMSELVES?
 
It’s almost as if they don’t have their own permission to be themselves…
Perhaps you know someone, intimately, who has done this?! (ie. YOU?)
 
Well, really it isn’t your fault. Sometimes, by being an authentic woman, you can really get yourself into dangerous situations if you were to bring attention onto yourself. You see, men have preyed on women for as long as we’ve been around on this Earth. (Not all men, thank god!) So it’s totally justified to not be comfortable being a woman.
 
But here’s the problem…if you’re not comfortable being a woman, (and men are attracted to women), then how are you going to be able to attract men? How will you be seen as attractive to men? How will men find you desirable?
 
So it’s time for you to get in touch with your true feminine side again and understand that you ARE a beautiful woman.

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Valentine's Day Last Minute Ideas

With Valentine's Day this weekend, we're sure there's are many of you out there who have left your plans to the last minute! And now it's too late to get a reservation at your favourite restaurant.
 
Well don't fret because there are 10 super practical, perfect last minute date ideas that will have you winning with your special someone.
 
1. An All Night Rom-Com Movie Marathon
Sometimes it's those lazy nights in that end up being the most fun! Why not organise to have your partner's all time favourite Rom-Coms lined up for a bit of a movie marathon. No doubt to be accompanied with wine and chocolate and if you're up for it, cook their favourite dinner. However if that's asking a bit much there's no shame in ordering their favourite take out. 

In case you need some inspiration, our list of the top 10 Romantic Comedies of all time are:
Pretty Woman
When Harry Met Sally
He's Just Not That Into You
Love actually
The Holiday
P.S. I love You
The Notebook
How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days
Notting Hill
The Proposal
 
2. Picnic
It seems like an obvious choice, but that's because it never fails to impress! Hit the markets, gather together some cheese and crackers, cold meats, strawberries and champagne. Pack a blanket and utensils and you're good to go. Picnics don't require the fuss of a dinner reservation, the risk of bad food or a hefty bill. A picnic's charm lies mostly in it's intimacy. It doesn't necessarily have to be in a park, other romantic settings include beaches or at the end of a wharf, get creative! 

3. Breakfast In Bed
There's nothing better than sleeping in on a weekend... Oh wait there is, having breakfast in bed! This Valentine's Day jump out of bed a little earlier than your partner and whip them up something nice. Pancakes, bacon and eggs, croissants from the local bakery, fresh orange juice or even champagne. Don't be afraid to add flowers and warm coffee, perfection! 

4. A Spa Day
For the person who's been working hard and needs some time to unwind, take them somewhere indulgent where they can have their choice of a massage, facial or pedicure. The reason this idea is so great, is that you can book for two and both enjoy it!

5. A Fancy Lunch Date
Let's face it... if you're leaving it to the last minute, then it's always going to be hard getting that dinner reservation, so why not lunch! Get all dressed up, sit back and enjoy each others company and then leave the night time free for some alone time!

6. A Shopping Excursion
If your special someone is expecting a gift and you don't know what to get them, then why not plan a shopping day! Who doesn't love picking their own gift! Dedicate the whole day showing them you're interested in their needs and what they like, maybe what they like you'll enjoy as well, cue the lingerie stores! 

7. Tickets To Something They Would Love
Could be the latest movie, a sports game, or the theatre, whatever your taste there is always an event on! The great thing about these sort of dates, is the excitement and atmosphere that surrounds them. It's guaranteed fun and perfect for the couple who isn't into a gushing romance sort of occasion.

8. A Trip To The Zoo
Maybe this Valentine's day isn't just about the two of you anymore, maybe there are little ones who you want to involve in the festivities too. A trip to the zoo is always a fun and enjoyable day for everyone. Strolling past the enclosures, stopping off for an ice-cream and enjoying each others company is maybe all the romance you want. 

9. Cooking Class
Cooking classes make great gifts, Thai, Italian or French there is always something to meet your tastes. Put an end to all arguments in the kitchen by learning how to cook a meal together. This is bound to be fun and will mean many more enjoyable meals together to come in the future. 

10. Star Gazing
Bring a blanket and pack dessert to finish off your special day with a special night underneath the stars. Lie down, look up and relax. It doesn't get any more romantic than moonlight. 

Whatever last minute Valentine’s Day you’re planning for this weekend... Make sure your surprise isn't late!